Male Bonding
“I’ll be there… I’ll wait for you,” said my friend.
Hi. Today is someone’s birthday—and I’m wishing good for her. Yes, her. A girl.
But the above words from my friend came from a unique day. It went something like this...
The morning began with an unbelievable rise of dark moods—it was because of a girl. But later, my friend said something, and that day I realized something important:
In relationships, time isn’t the key. Trust is.
And if there’s doubt in a relationship, walking away for a while is actually a wise move.
The best way to forget relationship problems? Being with friends. Just the boys. No drama, no heartbreak. The love we often miss in romantic relationships? It's there in friendship.
We can do anything in a circle of close male friends. But that doesn’t mean I’m criticizing women or relationships. No. I’m just highlighting the real value of male bonding. For me, friendship comes first—even if the world sees it as second.
Whenever life gets hard, the best way to bounce back is to be with true friends. And again, I’m not generalizing or comparing—this is about that deep male bond.
A male bond is real. It’s something that forms between guys—even between rivals. It may not be strong, but it’s always there. Some silent connection. Some invisible pull.
That day was a strange one—because it was my day. In the evening, we met. My friend asked me to join him at a bar. That was an awesome, unexpected invite. We went, with 4–5 other friends.
And there, I noticed something...
Every guy in the bar was dancing, singing, laughing—but for one common reason: to impress some girl. To make her feel special. But then I noticed something else—most of them were just like me. Dumped. Miserable. Lost.
Then I let go.
I took vodka, and somehow became the center of attention. Everyone noticed me. Girls came up, asked me questions. But it wasn’t just me—it was because of my friends. They lifted me up.
Later, we sat in a park under a clean sky. Twinkling stars above. For the first time, the stars felt more beautiful than the moon. And that’s when it hit me:
The stars were like my friends. The moon? That one girl.
We started spilling our hearts out. About relationships. About pain. But more than anything, we spoke of us—our bond.
I was lost in thought… Why didn’t we take any girl's name?
I voiced it. Spoke my heart aloud. And it felt amazing.
The bottle was empty. My body felt heavy. I collapsed onto the ground and fell asleep…
And I thought—
> In a man’s life, the worst pain can come from a girl.
They’re like a hard disk—they can crash anytime.
But compact friends? They’re like a CD—reliable, unbreakable.
Even if you fall, they’ll pull you up.
They have the power to turn your pain into strength—
Even change your breath, your life.
And now, I truly believe—what I need most in this life is a strong circle of friends.
A bond that makes life livable.
That is the force of Male Bonding.
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Next morning, I woke up in my bed.
Just like I said—they’ll always get you out of anything.
That’s what Male Bonding is.
— TJ
3rd May, 2012
